Hey guys!!! Suffering in life comes from the wants we have. We become attached to the things we don’t have and at the end, when we don’t get what we want, we suffer. Although suffering can be ended by stop wanting things, there are still many ways we can end sufferings easily. One of these ways is what I call “Attachment with Opposite Results”. This is what I learnt few days back and found it very interesting. So today, let’s learn how to end sufferings in life in our favourite, Expeknow style!
Whenever we try something new, let’s say approaching beautiful girls, we make an assumption that everything will be fine and she will give her number and lots of other things. Now, I am not saying that being positive is bad. I am saying that we become attached to these assumptions. So, if she gives you her number or her name, you become happy but when the opposite happens, you become sad and don’t try to approach another girl. This is what many people face while doing something they haven’t done before.
So, what’s the solution? Well, this is to just “become attached to the opposite outcome”. Yes, it may feel like it’s not right, we should be positive and blah blah blah but like Buddha said, “Suffering comes from wants”. So, when you want positive and you don’t get it, some people manage it but most loss interest and confidence.
Becoming attached to opposite outcome means to think about the worst outcome and getting attached to that or in simple words, expecting that to happen. Suppose someone is going to approach a girl for a chat and a walk for the first time. Instead of making positive assumptions, he makes an assumption that she is going to reject him and ignore him. He goes and approach her. Now, let’s say she said “No”. This means that what he thought was right. This rejection won’t bother him much now since he was aware that she will reject him. He would be able to digest that fact faster.
On the other hand, if the girl said “Yes”. The guy would be happy. He got what he wanted. He somehow in his mind wanted this to happen but he attached himself with the opposite of this outcome which gave him the power to face the rejection. It’s a win-win game. You can’t lose in this one. You either get what you thought you would get or will get what you want to get.
When you think like this, you be ready for the worst outcome also. This helps you handle situations, be flexible and be happy since you will always get what you wanted. A lot of people don’t think this way. Even I got to know this just before few days. It’s a really amazing technique so give it a shot and let me know how it went with you.
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